June 03, 2026

The movement from loneliness to solitude is a movement from the restless senses to the restful spirit, from the outward-reaching cravings to the inward-reaching search.

Nouwen wrote this in the mid-1970s, during a period when he was reassessing his life as a priest, professor, and writer who moved constantly between Harvard, Yale, and speaking engagements across the world. He was describing what it felt like to be always busy, always needed, yet never settled. He noticed that most people, himself included, respond to disruption and change by filling the space with noise and activity rather than sitting still long enough to find out what they actually need. That observation is still accurate, and it lands especially hard when life forces a change you did not choose.