May 23, 2026

To love is to will the good of another.

Thomas Aquinas wrote this in 13th-century Paris, during a period of intense intellectual debate about the nature of human desire and whether love was fundamentally selfish or oriented outward. He was responding to Aristotelian philosophy and trying to show that genuine love is not a feeling that happens to you but a deliberate act of the will directed at someone else's flourishing. For Aquinas, this meant that love was less about emotion and more about consistent choice, which makes it something you can actually practice rather than wait for. That distinction is just as useful now, when it is easy to confuse love with sentiment and forget that it shows up most clearly in small, concrete decisions made on behalf of another person.